Thursday, December 21, 2023

"What do you want for Christmas?"

It's the question we’re answering this season. We're surrounded by opportunities to dream about the things that might bring more life satisfaction, and a little dreaming never hurt anyone, right? Unfortunately, the transition from harmless hoping to becoming perpetually discontent can be a slippery slope. Is it possible to resist the gravitational pull toward materialism and experience something better?

Bad news first: Resisting the tug toward endless discontent won't happen on accident. But there is great news - with intentionality, it is possible! Growth in contentment and appreciation hinges on two critical practices: gratitude and generosity. Let's tackle one at a time.

The practice of gratitude goes beyond initial thankfulness. It requires a pause to acknowledge the gift in its entirety, to consider the positive impact it will make in your life, and to recognize the thoughtfulness and sacrifice made by someone else in order for you to experience it. What would it look like for you to slow down enough to experience gratitude for the gift you received from a loved one? What would it look like for you to pause and express gratitude to your heavenly Father, the giver of all good things? This practice helps foster the peace and contentment we crave.

The second practice, generosity, is necessary for refocusing our wants to the desires and needs of others. As we invest in giving to others, not only are we impacting them, but we're actually changed from the inside out! Susan Albers, PsyD explained it this way: "As you help someone or give a gift, your brain secretes 'feel good' chemicals such as serotonin (which regulates your mood), dopamine (which gives you a sense of pleasure), oxytocin (which creates a sense of connection with others)." Doesn’t that sound delightful!? While we can consider opportunities for financial generosity, there are other options. Have you considered being generous with your words, writing a note of appreciation to someone who could use the encouragement? Have you carved out time to serve regularly, perhaps as part of CedarCreek’s DreamTeam, or as part of our community outreach at a Second Saturday Serve? Engaging in generosity is always worth it!

As you continue to dream this season, be intentional about making time for gratitude and generosity. Engaging in these practices now can help build these into everyday habits... and that’s a recipe for the fulfillment we all seek!